Depression

[Paninistickers]

6 hours ago, HighPeakFox said:

We didn't, but I'm OK. 

Ooof, always a tough one matey. Affairs of the heart etc. especially when you think you've found 'the one' ... I doubt it's.much consolation - but most people can relate to it

 

 

[Parafox]

7 hours ago, HighPeakFox said:

We didn't, but I'm OK. 

 

48 minutes ago, Paninistickers said:

Ooof, always a tough one matey. Affairs of the heart etc. especially when you think you've found 'the one' ... I doubt it's.much consolation - but most people can relate to it

 

 

 

I still pine for "the one" 47 years later. It is what it is and life moves on. The best memories last forever.

 

I'm no longer sad but I can't help wondering... what if?

[The Blur]

On 02/09/2024 at 13:55, urban.spaceman said:

Eleven months later and I've just handed in my final project and associated literature.

 

101 page screenplay - 23,000 words

7-8000 words of rewrites

3500 word short screenplay with my highest ever academic mark

And 15,000 or so words of supporting materials

60 trips back and forth to Goldsmiths in New Cross in London

11 months

2 emergency laptop repairs

20% student discount at the pub

Many new friends made

(and a nemesis)

New opportunities created

And a shitload of new ideas.

 

I am officially done. Thank you to everyone on here who supported me through this. I honestly couldn't have done this a couple of years ago. I'm still in the process of turning my life around from the bombshell it's been but the future I want is becoming a lot more clearer and possible.

 

I'm going to spend the next few days in bed.

 

 

Dude,   I have been quietly following your progress and this is the best thing I have read today. 

[Wymsey]

Am surprised how unemployment really questions one self, unless it's just me feeling it (after a few interview rejections)..

[when_you're_smiling]

2 hours ago, Wymsey said:

Am surprised how unemployment really questions one self, unless it's just me feeling it (after a few interview rejections)..

It’s the stigma of it particularly the process of having to go and sign on every day to prove you’re not the pariah sponging off society. It’s a really depressing process. Most of the people who would be quick to claim all people on the dole are scroungers have never been through the process.

[Wymsey]

1 hour ago, when_you're_smiling said:

It’s the stigma of it particularly the process of having to go and sign on every day to prove you’re not the pariah sponging off society. It’s a really depressing process. Most of the people who would be quick to claim all people on the dole are scroungers have never been through the process.

I've not signed on, but I totally get where you're coming from.

 

It's sad that @Rincewind isn't around, as he'd probably very much agree with you.

[Naat]

On 17/02/2016 at 17:20, Pinkman said:

I've suffered from the illness/disease (it eats away at you, making you feel hopeless) for the past year and a half. I've often contemplated about ending my life in the last few weeks. I go to university but can't say I particular enjoy it. I rarely turn up to university through anxiety and fear.

 

I haven't told my parents/friends. My friends see me in a completely different light. A cocky, light-hearted individual. 

 

A combination of guilt and comforting myself by listening to music has meant I haven't taken my life, however I feel completely and utterly miserable. I spoke to my course leader about it, and ended up breaking down half way through the meeting. I really do think leaving university would be the best thing to do, I think it would make me happier, but I'd feel like a failure towards my parents who have obviously paid lots of money for me to come here.

 

I'd also like to thank this current Leicester team/staff for giving me hope. What Ranieri, Mahrez, Kante, Vardy and co have achieved this season is unbelievable, and it gives me real hope to carry and battle on. Even if we don't win the league, this campaign has been amazing and made me almost forget the Taylor/Levein/Holloway years...

 

Anyway, I'm not sure what my intention was to post this on here, I just wanted to know if anyone has ever felt anything similar to me, and what they did to combat this.

 

 

 

I strongly suggest below things for remedy :

sage tea

green tea 

black tea is good but green tea has more flavonoids and make your body more contributions to fight inflamation reasons.

honey 

walnut

grape

date (fruit)

sefand seed tea (peganum harmala) it is too bittter add very low as much as tip of a tea spoon into one liter water)

fish (omega 3) get fresh do not take canned fish

olive oil  (only cold press and natural one)

butter (must be natural not mixed with margarines)

village bread as much as brown 

natural fermented house yoghurt 

cheese as much as fermented 

pickle (natural not in the jars with chemicals ) you can make at home it is easy 

***what I want to try to make to increase useful bacteria making contribution to your inner healts that turns you healty .

Get Sun Bathing, Do not escape from SUN , the more D VIT, the less anxiety and depression. Use natural oil for sun bathing never and ever sun screen creams of well known brand .Even if you put olive oil thats i far much better those fabricated chemicals creams )

Walnut is a good source of copper. Copper also plays an important role in the preservation of collagen in the body and especially for connective tissue.

 

 

Edited 21 September 2024 by Naat

[chrishlcfc]

Can’t figure life out.

 

Got so many things I’d like to do pass my driving test, get back into employment, lose some weight.

 

But then I just sit at home all the time and don’t do anything to help myself. It’s like I really want to work as I’m sitting at home not contributing still living with my parents in my early 30s.

 

I just can’t get out the rut I’m in. Finding life really really difficult. 

[Wymsey]

10 hours ago, chrishlcfc said:

Can’t figure life out.

 

Got so many things I’d like to do pass my driving test, get back into employment, lose some weight.

 

But then I just sit at home all the time and don’t do anything to help myself. It’s like I really want to work as I’m sitting at home not contributing still living with my parents in my early 30s.

 

I just can’t get out the rut I’m in. Finding life really really difficult. 

I understand what you're saying.

 

But sometimes you just have to push yourself to try to achieve what you want to do (it's not easy, for sure, if the mentality is the fear of not achieving or rejection is holding you back) - the hardest part is picking yourself up.

 

On the work front: I'm currently unemployed after 2-and-a-half months, with a few interview 'rejections' which have hit me more hard than I thought it'd do, but as hard as it is having to deal with rejections - I know that I'm one step closer perhaps to getting something.

 

My partner is visually-impaired, and had to deal with many interview rejections for 9 years (and having to work during this period with a company that overlooked her in many cases due to her disability) - but she's got a job in the NHS now, which she really wanted for a good while.

 

So, anything is possible despite setbacks and think the key aspect here is a positive mentality.

 

Good luck.

Edited 23 September 2024 by Wymsey

[foxfanazer]

10 hours ago, chrishlcfc said:

Can’t figure life out.

 

Got so many things I’d like to do pass my driving test, get back into employment, lose some weight.

 

But then I just sit at home all the time and don’t do anything to help myself. It’s like I really want to work as I’m sitting at home not contributing still living with my parents in my early 30s.

 

I just can’t get out the rut I’m in. Finding life really really difficult. 

Completely understandable mate. Not trying to preach or anything because everyone's different but when I find myself in a rut I try to set myself some smaller goals before tackling the bigger ones.

 

So say for example you wanna find employment but haven't got the motivation to put yourself out there. In the meantime set yourself other goals like I don't know... walking 3 miles a day or run for 20 minutes. The little wins might give you the confidence and belief in yourself to push for the bigger goals. 

 

Then again I could just be talking bollocks 

 

Inbox is always open for a chat though mate

[Paninistickers]

19 hours ago, chrishlcfc said:

Can’t figure life out.

 

Got so many things I’d like to do pass my driving test, get back into employment, lose some weight.

 

But then I just sit at home all the time and don’t do anything to help myself. It’s like I really want to work as I’m sitting at home not contributing still living with my parents in my early 30s.

 

I just can’t get out the rut I’m in. Finding life really really difficult. 

Hi mate. Always read your posts as you seems such a likeable fella. Gonna echo what the last two posts said. 

 

If you are with your mum and dad (and basically not under immediate financial pressures) then,.in some ways, try to see it as a good thing. Almost treat it like a rehab. 

 

Get up in a morning. Go for a walk / gym / swim. Build sitting and having a slow coffee and a read into the morning regime. Nip to the library, learn something super badic. Go get something super cheap from the supermarket and make it for dinner. Wash up..relax. Enjoy the evening. 

 

As said above,.little wins. Try to enjoy being sat at home and feeling safe with family. Don't try to figure life out too much. Nobody solves that

[foxfanazer]

I think something we're all guilty of is assuming everybody else knows what they're doing and have their lives in order when in reality 99% of us are just making it up as we go along. Just another byproduct of this horrible illness 

Edited 23 September 2024 by foxfanazer

[bovril]

19 hours ago, chrishlcfc said:

Can’t figure life out.

 

Got so many things I’d like to do pass my driving test, get back into employment, lose some weight.

 

But then I just sit at home all the time and don’t do anything to help myself. It’s like I really want to work as I’m sitting at home not contributing still living with my parents in my early 30s.

 

I just can’t get out the rut I’m in. Finding life really really difficult. 

I'm late 30s and I still haven't figured life out. When you factor in the years of the pandemic and the economic uncertainty atm I doubt many people in their early 30s are exactly where they want to be. As others have said try to find the positives in the situation. Relax and do things you like doing. Don't feel like you need to sort something out by a particular point in your life. I had that mentality up until quite recently and I realize now it wasn't a great way to be living my life. 

[bovril]

22 minutes ago, foxfanazer said:

I think something we're all guilty of is assuming everybody else knows what they're doing and have their lives in order when in reality 99% of us are just making it up as we go along. Just another facet of this horrible illness 

There's a lot I like about Britain but at the same time I think there's too much pressure on young people here to achieve certain things by a certain time which can be very stressful. 

[Trav Le Bleu]

2 hours ago, foxfanazer said:

I think something we're all guilty of is assuming everybody else knows what they're doing and have their lives in order when in reality 99% of us are just making it up as we go along. Just another byproduct of this horrible illness 

Spot on.

 

This is kind of inverse of that but also parallel...

 

When I was at my lowest, I felt like I couldn't do anything, and all the time I knew it was stupid, cos I knew that every day ordinary people were doing things I felt I couldn't do, many with less knowledge or experience than I had, but they just did it even though they might have little understanding. 

 

I often see people blissfully waltzing through life with little knowledge of how it all works. Given, these people often are a source of exasperation for others, but it shows that by and by people get by, regardless. Usually - sometimes a series of bad events can completely derail a person.

 

To @chrishlcfc earlier, aside from all the other good advice earlier, you indicated that maybe you feel like a burden to your parents at home, but maybe helping out with chores and stuff will show your appreciation of their care for you. If you already do - great, maybe you can do a bit more? It keeps you active and provides a feeling of self-worth and value.

 

Can I also suggest prioritising learning to drive? Cos you mentioned getting a job and if you can drive then a) opens up jobs involving driving, of which there are many and b) jobs further afield or in areas not well covered by public transport.

 

All the best lovely people!

[chrishlcfc]

18 minutes ago, Trav Le Bleu said:

Spot on.

 

This is kind of inverse of that but also parallel...

 

When I was at my lowest, I felt like I couldn't do anything, and all the time I knew it was stupid, cos I knew that every day ordinary people were doing things I felt I couldn't do, many with less knowledge or experience than I had, but they just did it even though they might have little understanding. 

 

I often see people blissfully waltzing through life with little knowledge of how it all works. Given, these people often are a source of exasperation for others, but it shows that by and by people get by, regardless. Usually - sometimes a series of bad events can completely derail a person.

 

To @chrishlcfc earlier, aside from all the other good advice earlier, you indicated that maybe you feel like a burden to your parents at home, but maybe helping out with chores and stuff will show your appreciation of their care for you. If you already do - great, maybe you can do a bit more? It keeps you active and provides a feeling of self-worth and value.

 

Can I also suggest prioritising learning to drive? Cos you mentioned getting a job and if you can drive then a) opens up jobs involving driving, of which there are many and b) jobs further afield or in areas not well covered by public transport.

 

All the best lovely people!

Thanks. Driving is something I really want to do, just can’t afford it unfortunately. I’ve been the same for years I had one test years ago and failed. But I’ve passed my theory like 3/4 times now and keep having to do it again because it runs out.

 

Proper frustrating but probably need to get a job to fund it tbh. 

[Trav Le Bleu]

14 minutes ago, chrishlcfc said:

Thanks. Driving is something I really want to do, just can’t afford it unfortunately. I’ve been the same for years I had one test years ago and failed. But I’ve passed my theory like 3/4 times now and keep having to do it again because it runs out.

 

Proper frustrating but probably need to get a job to fund it tbh. 

Keep at it mate. Took me three goes and a lot of support from my parents. Maybe if you could just find a small job that's a few hours a week just to pay for the lessons (seriously, once the basics are there it's just familiarisation, experience and confidence you need, that can only come with time behind the wheel)?

 

Right time of year for it. In the run in to Christmas (with the stupid way the West runs an economy that bottle necks much of its income into one day of the year for something that most people don't actually believe ) there's lots of temp jobs requiring little to no experience. Yes, they're usually tedious (at best) but the great thing as I said, temporary.

 

Just an idea.

[Foxhateram]

Hit a big brick wall this week and really struggling. Hard to explain why but giving up really feels like an option right now! 

[Crinklyfox]

42 minutes ago, Foxhateram said:

Hit a big brick wall this week and really struggling. Hard to explain why but giving up really feels like an option right now! 

Do you have dependants?  Or people who love you?  If so you could hurt them by taking the giving up option.  I know that's a hard thought but it's one I had to face myself and it made me hang in when I didn't feel like it.  Years later I'm glad I did and I expect you would too.

[Parafox]

5 hours ago, Foxhateram said:

Hit a big brick wall this week and really struggling. Hard to explain why but giving up really feels like an option right now! 

Do you have someone you can talk to, either a professional or a friend to confide in?

 

Talking doesn't necessarily solve the issue but it certainly helps IME.

 

I have even found pouring stuff out on here takes up time and helps me focus my mind and then I can actively divert away from the issues causing me anxiety and worry. I know those issues won't go away but for a while at least, I can turn my mind off even though I'm expressing and divulging what it is that is making me feel so down. Offloading, however you do it, is quite therapeutic.

 

You will be welcomed and supported here. Even though you say it's hard to explain, it might be worth a shot.

 

Best wishes. 

 

 

[FoxesDeb]

8 hours ago, Foxhateram said:

Hit a big brick wall this week and really struggling. Hard to explain why but giving up really feels like an option right now! 

Speaking as someone who lost one of the most precious people in my life just a few months ago to suicide I urge you to talk to someone, anyone, me or another poster on this thread will be happy to listen, and hopefully make you realise giving up is not the best option, neither for you nor for the people in your life who love you and care about you.

 

If not us, the Samaritans are always there on 116 123

 

[Lionator]

10 hours ago, Foxhateram said:

Hit a big brick wall this week and really struggling. Hard to explain why but giving up really feels like an option right now! 

Hey brother, whatever’s happening, the feelings you’re having right now are temporary. They will change and they will get better. 
 

A lot of our problems are caused by feelings of shame and guilt. “I’m not good enough”, “I’ve let others down”, “I’m a burden”. All feelings of guilt. But the truth is that you’re a normal person and you are doing your BEST, and if that best right now is not what you feel that you’re properly capable of, then so be it, that’s part of us being flawed, complicated human beings. But it’s time to cut yourself some slack, contextualise the difficulties you’re having and be fairer on yourself. It will get better, I’ve been there many times. I promise! 

Edited 5 October 2024 by Lionator

[Wymsey]

World Mental Health Day is tomorrow.

 

Hope things aren't too bad at present for those who have posted on here.

[urban.spaceman]

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Edited 14 October 2024 by urban.spaceman

[Jon the Hat]

On 20/09/2024 at 02:42, Wymsey said:

Am surprised how unemployment really questions one self, unless it's just me feeling it (after a few interview rejections)..

There are three pillars in most people's life, Family, Friends and Work.  Taking one away is quite destabilizing for most people.  If it goes on for a while it might be worth looking for some voluntary opportunities to keep yourself busy at least.