When was the moment you knew a friendship had ended or run its course?

[Izzy]

1 hour ago, MattP said:

If you are good mates you'll still meet up every now and then for a beer, anyway, a really good mate is someone you can go out with for a few beers after not seeing them for a couple of years and it's like you saw each other last week.

This.

 

My best mate of 30 years lives in Leics and I’ve lived down south for the last 20. We occasionally text about the football but only see each other about once a year at Xmas.

 

When we do meet up we just pick up where we left off and it’s great. He’s got his life and I’ve got mine but our friendship works perfectly the way it is.

 

Absence makes the heart grow fonder maybe?

[pSinatra]

I've heard someone say it before & it seems quite fitting.  A true friend is someone you would call if you were stranded in the middle of nowhere in the early hours of the morning.  How many of your friends could you trust to come to your rescue?

 

I have about half a dozen people that I consider 'very good' friends that I have known for nearly 40 years.  We've done everything together & we still do (although not as often).  Out of those mates, there's only one I could trust in an emergency.  Yet I would happily drag my arse out of bed at 3am for any one of those friends

[murphy]

My best friends have all been dogs.

 

Sounds a bit tragic, it is a bit tragic, but that's the way I like it.  

 

[Izzy]

2 minutes ago, murphy said:

My best friends have all been dogs (and members of famous 80's girl bands) 

 

[murphy]

1 minute ago, Izzy said:

My best friends have all been dogs (and members of famous 80's girl bands) 

These are not mutually exclusive by the way.....

 

 

 

 

Just kidding Bananarama....just kidding.....

[Christoph]

Sometimes you need to organise stuff together and purposely make the time for it. E.G. Myself and my work friends have badminton booked once a week for an hour after work. Doesn't get in the way of their life too much because its only one hour after work a week but it makes the time and it can fit around most peoples schedules. 

 

Also have a season ticket with my other two friends which means I'll usually see them every other week as well.

 

Last thing you want your life to be is to go work, come home, make dinner, clean up, sit on the sofa for a few hours and then go sleep. All about making time for friends. Obviously it takes two to tango but if you have a decent group of friends then you can usually catch one or two to do something every other week. 

[egg_fried_rice]

Whilst the regularity of our meetups seems to shrink every time, my group of mates from Leicester who are now all spread out over the country always manage to make time to see each other 2 or 3 times a year. It usually involves renting a place centrally and all piling in there over a long weekend, and is always a great laugh.

 

However, more recently the excuses are starting to roll in a bit more frequently and from one party in particular. They'll always be busy on a particular weekend that suits everybody else even when organised months in advance.

 

I understand people have families and busy lives, but these guys are important enough to me that I'd make time to see them. In a couple of weeks, we'll be having a meetup without him which is a bit sad but if he doesn't make the effort like everyone else does then what more can you do?

[UPinCarolina]

This topic makes me want to reach out to some friends.

[Dr The Singh]

I have no friends or ever had

[Matt]

8 hours ago, Leicester_Loyal said:

Finding this at the minute, have plenty of friends who just don't do anything, don't attend any events we do as a group nor even try to organise anything, just the same old excuses every time.

This is what i'm experiencing.

 

A few of them seem to have become recluses is the best way I can explain it.

 

When we do get together it's usually round someones house - they won’t come out, meet up,  you have to go to them/their house, which is great, we're together, enjoying each others friendship and company which is ultimately what it's all about but it'd be nice to go out, do something, go to events, e.t.c, i'd say regularly but even once in a while would be nice.

 

I and others used to try to arrange things but nothing ever happens, the same excuses, attempts to organise things are now rare because there is little to no point, I guess it's cutting off your nose to spite your face because you want to do things with them but when you get the same old false promises only to let downs or hear the same excuses it's easier just to not bother and cut out the frustration of knowing the outcome.

[Mark 'expert' Lawrenson]

When he died.

[Dr The Singh]

3 hours ago, pSinatra said:

I've heard someone say it before & it seems quite fitting.  A true friend is someone you would call if you were stranded in the middle of nowhere in the early hours of the morning.  How many of your friends could you trust to come to your rescue?

 

I have about half a dozen people that I consider 'very good' friends that I have known for nearly 40 years.  We've done everything together & we still do (although not as often).  Out of those mates, there's only one I could trust in an emergency.  Yet I would happily drag my arse out of bed at 3am for any one of those friends

Liar

[Dr The Singh]

3 hours ago, murphy said:

My best friends have all been dogs.

 

Sounds a bit tragic, it is a bit tragic, but that's the way I like it.  

 

I think Calling women, dogs is disrespectful.

[ScouseFox]

when you don’t miss them, i reckon. 

 

i was the first of our friendship group from school/home to move away, but still see the boys probably at least once a month, have done for 4 years since i left. there was 10 of us but now there’s 9, cos when another moved away a few years after he stopped coming home as much. and after probably 6 months of no-shows we all sort’ve mutually thought, “is anyone that bothered that he isn’t even here?”

 

 

[Dr The Singh]

1 hour ago, Dr The Singh said:

I have no friends or ever had

I know pay for friends, most of them I have to pay extra for a blow job

[Trav Le Bleu]

I'm a very loyal kind of person. We recently had our 25th Wedding Anniversary party. I invited loads of people who were at our wedding, but there was quite a few who didn't come, whereas people who were new friends who I still see fairly regularly pretty much all came. If I'd been invited to any of their parties, I'd have pulled up trees to be there, but I'll probably still invite them to our thirtieth.

 

We've had parties for our 10th and 20th too and I was actually thinking how many different people there were. Even since our 20th five years ago, there were probably 30-40 people there who we hadn't invited to our 20th.

 

Fortunately we still had a good large crowd. Some people still love us

[Carl the Llama]

I'm pretty sucky at maintaining more than a few relationships at a time and I'm not exactly active on social media so the second there's any great distance put between me and a friend that's basically it for us.  I know it makes me a bit of a cvnt and I've sadly lost touch with a few great friends because of it but I'm not physically or mentally capable of doing otherwise.

 

That said there's only really one person who I would say has ever gone truly above and beyond for me and I've gone to great efforts to keep that friendship, in fact I'm very much a heart on my sleeve kind of guy so anybody who I'm currently friends with knows I would drop everything no questions asked if they need my help so hopefully that balances my karma out somewhat.

[Wolfox]

4 hours ago, murphy said:

My best friends have all been dogs.

 

Sounds a bit tragic, it is a bit tragic, but that's the way I like it.  

 

Thanks Dave :-(

 

[Dr The Singh]

12 minutes ago, Carl the Llama said:

I'm pretty sucky at cock

 

That said there's only really one person who I would say has ever gone truly above and beyond for me and I've gone to great efforts to keep that friendship, in fact I'm very much a heart on my sleeve kind of guy so anybody who I'm currently friends with knows I would drop everything no questions asked if they need my help so hopefully that balances my karma out somewhat.

[Carl the Llama]

4 minutes ago, Dr The Singh said:

Still accurate I guess, we can't all have your backwards rodeo skills 

[Dr The Singh]

2 minutes ago, Carl the Llama said:

Still accurate I guess, we can't all have your backwards rodeo skills 

I have no friends, I dont know what your taking about, although I am totally proficient In the karmasutra

[murphy]

34 minutes ago, Wolfox said:

Thanks Dave :-(

 

 

Present company excepted, of course.

[Buce]

50 minutes ago, Carl the Llama said:

I'm pretty sucky at maintaining more than a few relationships at a time and I'm not exactly active on social media so the second there's any great distance put between me and a friend that's basically it for us.  I know it makes me a bit of a cvnt and I've sadly lost touch with a few great friends because of it but I'm not physically or mentally capable of doing otherwise.

 

That said there's only really one person who I would say has ever gone truly above and beyond for me and I've gone to great efforts to keep that friendship, in fact I'm very much a heart on my sleeve kind of guy so anybody who I'm currently friends with knows I would drop everything no questions asked if they need my help so hopefully that balances my karma out somewhat.

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Thanks, Carl, that means a lot...

[Rob1742]

Friendships change as people change. You are not the same person now as you were 20 years ago, and neither is your friend. So things are bound to change in some cases.

 

No point in hanging onto something that is no longer relevant anymore.

 

I have a similar opinion in family. No point spending time with people in your family if you don’t really get on. You have limited time here, so don’t force something that isn’t there.