Falling out. (Not windows but with family, friends, colleagues)

[Free Falling Foxes]

As children, I think its fair to say, you are always falling out with others.

Seeing the Trump/Musk (ok, not the best example) of two 'grown-ups' falling out is less common - or is it?

I know because of family dynamics, arguments/falling out can be far more common with relatives plus, at work, you can be mixing with others you, perhaps, cannot get along with.

With friends though? After all, you share more in common and should be able to work through any differences.

Myself and a long time friend have had a disagreement, I'm definitely off his Christmas card list. I have to say its a situation I've not experienced since school - a very long time ago. 

Anyway, it'll get sorted, one way or the other. I just wondered how common it is, especially amongst friends?

Edited 7 June 2025 by Free Falling Foxes

[jgtuk]

I’ve had fall outs with family and good friends, Brexit, Tory politics, Covid, Palestine,  you name it 😂. 
Life goes on, relationships are mended or not and the world doesn’t end. 

My wife says that I’m the common denominator 😡

 

[Trav Le Bleu]

Defenestration is too good for Trump or Musk!

[SouthStandUpperTier]

4 minutes ago, jgtuk said:

I’ve had fall outs with family and good friends, Brexit, Tory politics, Covid, Palestine,  you name it 😂

What about cheese?..

 

 

[Free Falling Foxes]

37 minutes ago, Trav Le Bleu said:

Defenestration is too good for Trump or Musk!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

After I Googled what 'Defenestration' meant. 

[Trav Le Bleu]

Actually this thread reminds me of this...

 

 

[AyewJoking]

I judge a book by its cover so i never get to the falling out bit

[MPH]

I only fallout with muppets.

 

 

 

i have fallen out with a lot of people.

[MPH]

But seriously… I always look for a reason to post this song!  Posting the video I play to my sons. 
 

 

[Vacamion]

 

One of my wife's friends spoke about falling out with someone and then "falling back in" with them, months later.

 

It's a useful turn of phrase I'd never heard before, and I like it.  

[foxfanazer]

4 hours ago, jgtuk said:

I’ve had fall outs with family and good friends, Brexit, Tory politics, Covid, Palestine,  you name it 😂. 
Life goes on, relationships are mended or not and the world doesn’t end. 

My wife says that I’m the common denominator 😡

 

I'd fall out with her for that

[foxfanazer]

4 hours ago, jgtuk said:

I’ve had fall outs with family and good friends, Brexit, Tory politics, Covid, Palestine,  you name it 😂. 
Life goes on, relationships are mended or not and the world doesn’t end. 

My wife says that I’m the common denominator 😡

 

Also your family and friends have strange names

Edited 7 June 2025 by foxfanazer

[Izzy]

I made the mistake of getting into business with a good mate about 15 years ago.

 

It inevitably went tits up, the trust was lost, and we haven't spoken since.

 

I thinks there's some truth in the old saying don't mix business with pleasure.

[foxfanazer]

Haven't spoken to my dad in 7 years. Ain't one for making allowances for people's shit personalities just because I'm related to them. Find it surprisingly easy to have nothing to do with him

[Trav Le Bleu]

1 hour ago, MPH said:

I only fallout with muppets.

 

 

 

i have fallen out with a lot of people.

Meep?

[Parafox]

I can honestly say I have never fallen out with either family or friends.

 

Neighbours, however...

[Innovindil]

Not spoken to one of my brothers in almost 2 years. If you'd have asked me 3 years ago if I could ever fall out with family, I'd have said no, but things can change quick.

 

It's sad that he'll never get to meet my son, but there are more important things that require my energy right now.

Edited 7 June 2025 by Innovindil

[Guest Lako42]

Lot of ***** about these days. 

 

 

I've drifted away from people rather fall out with them. 

 

I try not to argue politically or racially anymore, I just let them **** them themselves right off by showing no interest, including friends and family. 

 

It's too easy to be a complete extremist these days, if you can't meet me in the middle I'm not wasting my time. 

[fazzyfox]

When you’re in a band that splits up it’s like having 4 divorces all at once, then seeing who gets custody of the drummer . Brutal.
 

It’s also like spending 5 years building a house, you’re just about to put the roof on and the others each knock a wall down because they can’t agree on the wallpaper, just a waste of everyone’s time and effort.
 

It’s uniquely complex as you had / have a different relationship with each of them and they with each other so sorting it is very complex. 

 

 

[FoxesDeb]

I hadn't spoken to my mum for around 4 years until I had to ring her to tell her my son had died.

 

She quickly turned the conversation round to tell me about all her ailments, and she hasn't rung me since that day early last year.

 

I don't miss her in the slightest. We always had a difficult relationship and I eventually got fed up of making excuses for her. 

[Jon the Hat]

3 hours ago, FoxesDeb said:

I hadn't spoken to my mum for around 4 years until I had to ring her to tell her my son had died.

 

She quickly turned the conversation round to tell me about all her ailments, and she hasn't rung me since that day early last year.

 

I don't miss her in the slightest. We always had a difficult relationship and I eventually got fed up of making excuses for her. 

Sounds like my mother in law.  We’ve not had contact with her for over a decade but she still sends almost daily messages to my wife about how wonderful she is despite all the awful ailments she has and how everyone thinks we are awful but never once asking a question or expressing interest.

[Bayfox]

My wife says I can be incredibly harsh and judgemental, I went around 15 years not speaking to what was my best mate as a kid, we fell out as teenagers and never spoke again until we bumped into each other in a pub, to be fair ot was him that broke the ice, I'd have still kept my grudge.

 

Also stopped speaking to my Dad when I was 10 or 11 ish, he died before I turned 21 and we had never made up or spoken in that time. I didn't miss him one bit and don't regret my decision, I didn't like the life he had become accustomed to and the path he had gone down, got a half sister and 2 half brothers I've not had anything to do with in that time and since. Now 35 years later.

 

What it has taught me tho is to be a little more tolerant of those you choose to keep around you, I definitely let certain things slide with friends now, instead of challenging them or getting into debates and arguments that ultimately don't matter.

 

Also I've become much better at accepting when I'm wrong and admitting my mistakes and being man enough to go apologies and straighten things out at the earliest opportunity instead of letting it fester. Missing 15 years of friendship with a mate who is now a close friend again looking back seems pointless.

[Steve_Guppy_Left_Foot]

I’ve fallen out with a lot of people recently. I make no secret of some severe struggles I’ve had and it’s through these times you really realise who has your back and who doesn’t. I was in a relationship where I was abused for years and coming to terms with that has led me to realise my worth and what I bring to the relationships I’m involved in. I’ve fallen out with 2 close family members I have absolutely no intention of ever making up with unless they can apologise, basically for who and what they are as people and change, and that’s about as likely as Vardy bagging 20 goals for us next season, so I’m having to come to terms with a future without them, which is what I need to do for my own sanity and part of my healing process. I miss the good times but I don’t really miss them, it’s a strange feeling. 

[RoboFox]

Life's largely too short for drama and nonsense and I'm lucky enough to have decent friends and family. 

 

I had one life long friend who extracted himself from our friendship group and stopped talking to us over his perception we'd screwed him out of some cash for a stag do despite him pulling out at the last minute and everything had already been paid for. 

 

He was a bit weird mind.