TiffToff88 Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 Ok, so i'm getting married on saturday and realised i haven't even begun thinking about writing my speech! Can anyone give me some advice on what i should and shouldnt say? I do know that the Father of the Bride and Best Man speeches are the big ones, so the pressure is off me a little bit, but that doesn't mean i should be able to just blag it, does it? Also, public speaking terrifies me! (Probably why i haven't even thought about writing the speech yet) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yorkie1999 Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 Don't thank her for becoming your wife, straight away you're on the wrong foot in married life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goose2010 Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 First off congrats! You're right you have it easy just thank everyone for coming, introduce the bride with her new surname (should get a ripple of appluse) tell the bride and bridesmaid how stunning they look thank all parents and if anyone like an antie or grandma has helped out doing something Tell everyone to enjoy there afternoon / evening and then put as much pressure on the best man as you deem fit to put him off his stride. If you think you are going to quick just chuck a few toasts in there. It's always nice to raise a glass for people that couldnt be there to. Should last about 5 / 10 minutes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TiffToff88 Posted 17 January 2017 Author Share Posted 17 January 2017 Should i try to memorise what i'm going to say? or would it be acceptable to read straight from a piece of paper? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leicesterlad1989 Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 Congratulations. I'm getting married in April and haven't prepared anything yet. Having had the terrifying experience of being best man, I am not too worried about the groom speech. Put it this way you don't have to be funny, tell silly stories or try to embarrass anyone, in a way that isn't too rude but is also humourous. I think I am just going to do as others has stated and thank family members, talk about the bridesmaids and tell everyone to enjoy themselves. Plus I'll mention how beautiful my wife is (I am just assuming she will be) and most of all, I am going to give my best men (have more than one) a few digs before they rip into me. Hope you enjoy your day! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stripeyfox Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 3 minutes ago, TiffToff88 said: Should i try to memorise what i'm going to say? or would it be acceptable to read straight from a piece of paper? If having the paper makes you more comfortable then go for it. I find in these sitations that the "crowd" are pretty forgiving. No one wants to be up there and they'll tend to laugh along with you. My advice would be to write it down, or type it out. Go through the thank you's - anyone who helped you prepare for the day, as well as the bridesmaids etc (I think you're meant to toast them). Chuck a few jokes in if you want and round off with some sage advice about a happy marriage. I ended by saying that my best man had a strange condtion which caused him to tell lies about people (he was up next!) Most important advice (and I've done five best man speeches as well as a groom speech and one or two other family funerals and christenings) is to TAKE YOUR TIME. There can be a tendancy to rush as your brain just wants to get to the end so you can sit down and it be all over! But it will sound better if you take your time. Take pauses (have a drink of water) - even add prompts in your speech to slow the pace down. There's no rush, and everyone (including you) will enjoy it more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Izzy Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 21 minutes ago, TiffToff88 said: Should i try to memorise what i'm going to say? or would it be acceptable to read straight from a piece of paper? You could look a bit of a lemon if you've got your head down reading from a script - and if you're talking to the paper it might be difficult to hear you! I used a small 'Cue card' with bullet points on there to remind me who to thank - and then just ad libbed the rest. If you can memorize it all in advance then that's pretty impressive, but I imagine the guests would expect you to have a few notes as a reminder though. The good news is that (and with all due respect), no one really gives a toss about your speech. You're just the warm up for the main event! Just relax, enjoy and savor the moment mate. My weeding day was one of the best and emotional days of my life, but still didn't come close to us winning the PL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TiffToff88 Posted 17 January 2017 Author Share Posted 17 January 2017 1 minute ago, Izzy Muzzett said: You could look a bit of a lemon if you've got your head down reading from a script - and if you're talking to the paper it might be difficult to hear you! I used a small 'Que card' with bullet points on there to remind me who to thank - and then just ad libbed the rest. If you can memorize it all in advance then that's pretty impressive, but I imagine the guests would expect you to have a few notes as a reminder though. The good news is that (and with all due respect), no one really gives a toss about your speech. You're just the warm up for the main event! Just relax, enjoy and savor the moment mate. My weeding day was one of the best and emotional days of my life, but still didn't come close to us winning the PL I had considered slipping that into the speech somewhere. I know theres no pressure on me to be funny, but my mrs is from Sheffield and moved down here to live with me around the same time we signed Vardy. I was thinking about talking about how this amazing person from Sheffield came down to leicester and changed my life for the better, throwing in some ambiguous comments about this person, before toasting... Jamie Vardy. I think (hope) she will see the funny side as she has been converted to a leicester fan over the years! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bovril Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 6 minutes ago, Izzy Muzzett said: I used a small 'Que card' with bullet points on there to remind me who to thank - and then just ad libbed the rest. If you're getting married in Spanish I'm not surprised you had to learn your lines. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stripeyfox Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 2 minutes ago, TiffToff88 said: I had considered slipping that into the speech somewhere. I know theres no pressure on me to be funny, but my mrs is from Sheffield and moved down here to live with me around the same time we signed Vardy. I was thinking about talking about how this amazing person from Sheffield came down to leicester and changed my life for the better, throwing in some ambiguous comments about this person, before toasting... Jamie Vardy. I think (hope) she will see the funny side as she has been converted to a leicester fan over the years! That's pretty good actually, as long as you think she'll see the funny side! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Izzy Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 5 minutes ago, bovril said: If you're getting married in Spanish I'm not surprised you had to learn your lines. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TiffToff88 Posted 17 January 2017 Author Share Posted 17 January 2017 5 minutes ago, stripeyfox said: That's pretty good actually, as long as you think she'll see the funny side! As long as she doesn't get offended, and at least 1 person in the room laughs, i'll consider it a successful joke! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stripeyfox Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 Just now, TiffToff88 said: As long as she doesn't get offended, and at least 1 person in the room laughs, i'll consider it a successful joke! As long as the one person in the room who laughs isn't you.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
martyn Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 12 minutes ago, TiffToff88 said: I had considered slipping that into the speech somewhere. I know theres no pressure on me to be funny, but my mrs is from Sheffield and moved down here to live with me around the same time we signed Vardy. I was thinking about talking about how this amazing person from Sheffield came down to leicester and changed my life for the better, throwing in some ambiguous comments about this person, before toasting... Jamie Vardy. I think (hope) she will see the funny side as she has been converted to a leicester fan over the years! Yep, something like that should go down well as long as you build it up nicely. Couple of laughs (but not a stand up comedy routine, that's a mistake a lot of best men make imo), interspersed with sincerity is a winning formula. 10 minutes absolute max. Have been to plenty of weddings where Groom and Father of Bride speeches ramble on and the room is lost before the best man has had his go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adam Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 Google 'wedding speeches'. The Internet wrote most of mine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trav Le Bleu Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 54 minutes ago, TiffToff88 said: Should i try to memorise what i'm going to say? or would it be acceptable to read straight from a piece of paper? I did mine off the top of my head and thanked everyone successfully... except my wife! Hope you have a great day! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nalis Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 46 minutes ago, TiffToff88 said: I had considered slipping that into the speech somewhere. I know theres no pressure on me to be funny, but my mrs is from Sheffield and moved down here to live with me around the same time we signed Vardy. I was thinking about talking about how this amazing person from Sheffield came down to leicester and changed my life for the better, throwing in some ambiguous comments about this person, before toasting... Jamie Vardy. I think (hope) she will see the funny side as she has been converted to a leicester fan over the years! First of all, congrats! I'll be doing my groom speech later this year too. I was going to slip something in about Leicester winning the league too but I think your comment above is sounds great. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TiffToff88 Posted 17 January 2017 Author Share Posted 17 January 2017 8 minutes ago, Nalis said: First of all, congrats! I'll be doing my groom speech later this year too. I was going to slip something in about Leicester winning the league too but I think your comment above is sounds great. Good luck! Thanks, and good luck to you too when the time comes. My turn to give you some advice: Get as much done to prepare yourself as you can now. i'm 4 days away and feel like i've got nothing ready! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shen Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 Winged mine. If there are specific things you wish to mention, I suppose making a few bullet points is fine. Think you should just be honest and true and mostly address your new wife. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Libertine Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 I'm getting married in October. I have to speak? Sh*t. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fuchsntf Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 2 hours ago, TiffToff88 said: Ok, so i'm getting married n saturday and realised i haven't even begun thinking about writing my speech! Can anyone give me some advice on what i should and shouldnt say? I do know that the Father of the Bride and Best Man speeches are the big ones, so the pressure is off me a little bit, but that doesn't mean i should be able to just blag it, does it? Also, public speaking terrifies me! (Probably why i haven't even thought about writing the speech yet) Dont write a speach...!!! Think up/create one liners, around what you feel are relevant from your relationships, family, wifes family ,friends. Humerous, heart felt.and caring. Its amazing what you can relate to when looking for the right words. Then build a short speach in your mind, around them. Make the notes in your head, write somethings down before hand, but throw them away before. Trust yourself.. Oh pick out a couple of stories and make a joke out of it....eg: When i realised xxxx was the right girl and she said yes. I went nervously to her parents , to ask for her hand, Her father stood up towering over me, and asked ....WHY what the hell is wrong with the rest of her.. Nervous but not scared...trust yourself, you wont go blank...!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Strokes Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 A few jokes, make sure you thank everyone and also try to discredit the best man before he gets to hammer you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StanSP Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 3 hours ago, TiffToff88 said: Ok, so i'm getting married on saturday and realised i haven't even begun thinking about writing my speech! Can anyone give me some advice on what i should and shouldnt say? I do know that the Father of the Bride and Best Man speeches are the big ones, so the pressure is off me a little bit, but that doesn't mean i should be able to just blag it, does it? Also, public speaking terrifies me! (Probably why i haven't even thought about writing the speech yet) I hate public speaking and had to do a best-man speech in front of 400-450 people for my brother's wedding. Had a quick pint before and managed to make some people laugh and got a few cheers at some comments towards the groom. I'd have something prepared but I wouldn't just blag all of it! Presumably always start off with complimenting your new wife as well as welcoming her in to your family! 8 minutes ago, Strokes said: A few jokes, make sure you thank everyone and also try to discredit the best man before he gets to hammer you. The best man speech is before the groom's isn't it? So the best man would have already hammered him! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TiffToff88 Posted 17 January 2017 Author Share Posted 17 January 2017 2 minutes ago, StanSP said: The best man speech is before the groom's isn't it? So the best man would have already hammered him! I dont think there are set rules on the order, but traditionally speaking, i'm led to believe that it goes: Father of the Bride Groom Best Man Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Footballwipe Posted 17 January 2017 Share Posted 17 January 2017 14 minutes ago, Strokes said: A few jokes, make sure you thank everyone and also try to discredit the best man before he gets to hammer you. I won't be having a best man at my wedding next year. Does that mean I have to spend time hammering myself before I do the nicey nicey stuff? Anyone who doesn't claw some title winning reference into their speech over the next couple of years is mad. Open goal! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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