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Regrets, I've had a few. Have you?

By Parafox, in General Chat

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Parafox

Parafox

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Going back over my life, I definitely have.

 

Firstly and most importantly, I regret not looking for my birth mum when I was younger. She'll have passed away by now and I never knew her.

That's the biggie for me.

 

Other, less important:

 

I regret not buying a better car than the one I bought when I had the chance.

I regret not taking the offer of a free cruise on the Med because I thought it was a scam but it turned out not to be as it was offered to my mate who has a business and it was a "thank you" for his custom and he wanted to surprise us with a gift.

I regret not following up on my idea of a private ambulance company, given that the NHS now contracts them to support their own emergency ambulance service. I could have made a fortune.

I regret not being in the ground when we took the PL trophy.

I regret not pursuing my dream of being a radio DJ. Had a couple of auditions but never followed them up.

I regret never seeing some of the biggest bands live, because I hate crowds.

Regrets are kind of random. I think it's only when one really thinks about one's life that the things missed are brought into focus.

 

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tom27111

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I really regret going to get beer from a shop down London Road during a really random shite act on stage at Radio 1's One Big Sunday at Vicky Park.

 

I came back, armed with a 12 pack of Stella, but I'd missed Holly Valance.

 

That was my chance, our eyes would have locked through the crowd, intense sexual tension...we wouldn't have been able to resist each other.

 

Instead, I got really pissed and threw up on myself on the 31 bus back to Oadby.

 

Oh, how different it could have been.

 

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Sampson

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One big one involving a relationship when I was younger where we just both wanted different things and couldn't agree a compromise, we didn't fall out of love with each other and we didn't have an argument, but it was just circumstances we couldn't agree on and was just a case of right person at the wrong time.

I guess you learn things from these though and lots of people have that one relationship when they were young where it felt like in a slightly different world they'd still be together. I guess it just hurt more than the usual breakup because it didn't feel like it came to a natural end, it was just that we couldn't agree on where we wanted to go in life.

It's a long time ago and it's not like I really regret it anymore, but I admit I do still think about it time to time.

Sampson

Sampson

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9 minutes ago, Webbo said:

Regret is the most pointless emotion there is, you can't change the past.

In theory that's of course true, but it doesn't make it easy to control.

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Webbo

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5 minutes ago, Sampson said:

In theory that's of course true, but it doesn't make it easy to control.

True, but you have to try to block it out. It'll only eat you up.

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Izzy

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19 minutes ago, Webbo said:

Regret is the most pointless emotion there is, you can't change the past.

 

1 minute ago, Webbo said:

True, but you have to try to block it out. It'll only eat you up.

Regret is not necessarily a bad thing...

 

Why do we regret? ... Feeling regret reminds us to think carefully about our decisions and helps us not to make the same mistakes again. Regrets are also how we learn about ourselves, and know what it is we really want. In feeling regret, we have clarity about what outcome and things we truly want for ourselves.

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fuchsntf

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1 hour ago, Parafox said:

Going back over my life, I definitely have.

 

Firstly and most importantly, I regret not looking for my birth mum when I was younger. She'll have passed away by now and I never knew her.

That's the biggie for me.

 

Other, less important:

 

I regret not buying a better car than the one I bought when I had the chance.

I regret not taking the offer of a free cruise on the Med because I thought it was a scam but it turned out not to be as it was offered to my mate who has a business and it was a "thank you" for his custom and he wanted to surprise us with a gift.

I regret not following up on my idea of a private ambulance company, given that the NHS now contracts them to support their own emergency ambulance service. I could have made a fortune.

I regret not being in the ground when we took the PL trophy.

I regret not pursuing my dream of being a radio DJ. Had a couple of auditions but never followed them up.

I regret never seeing some of the biggest bands live, because I hate crowds.

Regrets are kind of random. I think it's only when one really thinks about one's life that the things missed are brought into focus.

 

But if you turned those Regrets around, your decisions causing your Regrets wouldnt have had a Chance to shine,

 those that have  given Comfort to many.

Some of those decisions were Not for you to make...Karma Decided otherwise, that gave you a Challenge & to Stand up to,

& make your own decisions your own,

when your innerself saw fit...

 

I would of loved to have put the right Nrs down for the lotto, or pools

but each Time I had the right permatation  every Single Girlfriend asked(pleaded) me to give her a 'number'...

I might of been rich but then stayed a virgin...

 

fking Sex maniacs, Held me back on my dreams....Now St Peter will Call me a twat as I Pass through the pearly-gates...or would he..:rolleyes:

men!!!.We all cant resist biting into that fking Apple..!!  

 

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Bellend Sebastian

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As a much younger man, having the girl of my dreams literally turn up at my house unannounced and basically ask me out, but because I was such a feeble mess somehow manage to not go out with her has got to be up there.

 

Also, if I'd had my time again I think I'd have trained to be a psychologist because I being able to understand why everyone is so f***ed up (I only get some insight into this because I'm married to one).

 

I'd have started playing guitar AT LEAST 5 years earlier as well

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tom27111

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In all seriousness about this, it's the butterfly effect or sliding doors moment's isn't it?

 

You may regret some things, but would you be where you are now?

 

Are you happy in your life and comfortable?

 

Looking back on things that may have been different and changed your life could mean that it worked out worse, for a short term gain.

 

I'm a big believer in fate and what happens in meant to happen.

 

If I didn't meet that girl...if I'd gone home an hour earlier...if I took that job...

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Sampson

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7 minutes ago, tom27111 said:

In all seriousness about this, it's the butterfly effect or sliding doors moment's isn't it?

 

You may regret some things, but would you be where you are now?

 

Are you happy in your life and comfortable?

 

Looking back on things that may have been different and changed your life could mean that it worked out worse, for a short term gain.

 

I'm a big believer in fate and what happens in meant to happen.

 

If I didn't meet that girl...if I'd gone home an hour earlier...if I took that job...

I've always thought fate and karma is an absolutely nonsense. The universe at the quantum level is 100% random and your decisions have cause and effect, there's nothing guiding your decisions outside your DNA and how your neurons fire based on past experiences. It's just a coping mechanics people use to escape the consequences of their actions in their head.

Easy to say about the butterfly effect for things like the job you get. Really traumatic things it's not that easy though. If someone says., they regret being short with a friend who committed suicide the next day, there's absolutely nothing they can gain by that which will be worth it. Even if they learn their lesson about giving more time to their friends, that lesson is absolutely not worth what happened.

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tom27111

tom27111

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40 minutes ago, Sampson said:

I've always thought fate and karma is an absolutely nonsense. The universe at the quantum level is 100% random and your decisions have cause and effect, there's nothing guiding your decisions outside your DNA and how your neurons fire based on past experiences. It's just a coping mechanics people use to escape the consequences of their actions in their head.

Easy to say about the butterfly effect for things like the job you get. Really traumatic things it's not that easy though. If someone says., they regret being short with a friend who committed suicide the next day, there's absolutely nothing they can gain by that which will be worth it. Even if they learn their lesson about giving more time to their friends, that lesson is absolutely not worth what happened.

OK, I take that. The example you gave is very powerful, but there are some spur of the moment decisions that do impact you massively without you knowing.

 

And do a certain extent, I'd agree.

 

But there are certain tiny decisions you make that'll have an impact.

 

You can't clinically weigh up everything you do.

Guest Electric Yetis

Guest Electric Yetis

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Working in insurance.

Anyone that ever considers it, don't.

Steven

Steven

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Not doing a Ph.D.

Not flying on Concorde when I had the chance.

Not doing enough shagging, I have done plenty but somehow it does not seem enough.

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