How Was Your Day?

[Strokes]

13 hours ago, ajthefox said:

 

 

 

Driver was very apologetic and has given me contact details so she can pay for the new front wheel my bike needs. A couple of passers-by made sure we were ok and they called the emergency services. Police turned up and took statements etc, but there was no need for an ambulance.

 

Amazingly, there wasn't too much impact. I got bumped up onto the bonnet head first, span around and fell off the front as the car came to a standstill. Thankfully I was able to brace my fall. I dread to think how bad it might've been if it had been a split second later and she hit me side on, rather than me going head on into the side of her.

Felt fine today, just a bit of acute soreness in my thigh.

Glad your ok pal.

[chrishlcfc]

Honestly almost feel normal, fairly  happy for the 1st time in almost a month. Not perfect but better than recently. It’s nice to have the odd day come that makes you think everything is actually worth keeping on going for. 
 

Appreciate everybody’s support in the other thread. 

[walkerleeds]

25 minutes ago, chrishlcfc said:

Honestly almost feel normal, fairly  happy for the 1st time in almost a month. Not perfect but better than recently. It’s nice to have the odd day come that makes you think everything is actually worth keeping on going for. 
 

Appreciate everybody’s support in the other thread. 

 

I have no idea what you're going through or what thread you're referring to but I love reading posts like this.

 

Keep going mate.

[Izzy]

35 minutes ago, chrishlcfc said:

Honestly almost feel normal, fairly  happy for the 1st time in almost a month. Not perfect but better than recently. It’s nice to have the odd day come that makes you think everything is actually worth keeping on going for. 
 

Appreciate everybody’s support in the other thread. 

And those are the thoughts you need to keep shining a light on Chris.

 

Those are the thoughts to focus on and give your conscious awareness to.

 

Not the negative thoughts that cross your mind and lead you to anxiety and depression.

 

We can't control the 40,000 thoughts that enter our head every day, but we can decide which one's we invite to stay for dinner 

[Parafox]

48 minutes ago, Izzy said:

We can't control the 40,000 thoughts that enter our head every day, but we can decide which one's we invite to stay for dinner 

Sometimes those are the ones that intrude uninvited and stick around for the whole day. No matter what you do to get them to leave, they keep hanging on until you reach desperation and hide yourself away.

Or have several drinks until you forget they're even there. But then you're gonna wake up and they'll still be there, muttering in the background...

[Izzy]

16 minutes ago, Parafox said:

Sometimes those are the ones that intrude uninvited and stick around for the whole day. No matter what you do to get them to leave, they keep hanging on until you reach desperation and hide yourself away.

Or have several drinks until you forget they're even there. But then you're gonna wake up and they'll still be there, muttering in the background...

But that's the problem.

 

'Trying' to get them to leave requires conscious effort and focus. That's when we end up 'thinking about our thinking' and catastrophizing and disappearing down negative rabbit holes.

 

In my experience (and it's taken years of practice) when a negative thought appears, I acknowledge it as a thought (and not my reality), label it, dismiss it, and change my focus to something more positive. 

 

Thoughts come and go like ocean waves but what we focus on is what we get. We are "living in the feeling of our thinking, 100% of the time" 

 

Or as Mike Dooley says, "Thoughts become things - so choose the good ones!"

[chrishlcfc]

22 minutes ago, Parafox said:

Sometimes those are the ones that intrude uninvited and stick around for the whole day. No matter what you do to get them to leave, they keep hanging on until you reach desperation and hide yourself away.

Or have several drinks until you forget they're even there. But then you're gonna wake up and they'll still be there, muttering in the background...

Yeah that’s exactly how I’ve been for the last few weeks. All you can do is to try and keep going and ride the waves. 
 

Eventually hopefully for everybody there will be a day where you can gain more control over those thoughts. Don’t think they’ll ever go away, but I know personally that if you keep going you can have more good days than bad.

[Izzy]

6 minutes ago, chrishlcfc said:

Yeah that’s exactly how I’ve been for the last few weeks. All you can do is to try and keep going and ride the waves. 
 

Eventually hopefully for everybody there will be a day where you can gain more control over those thoughts. Don’t think they’ll ever go away, but I know personally that if you keep going you can have more good days than bad.

I think there's two types of thoughts.

 

1. Random, unconscious thoughts that just 'appear' out of nowhere

2. Things we choose to consciously think about (where we put our focus)

 

Even after 10 years of being free from depression, I still get 'random' thoughts appear - and some are not very nice at all. Only this week I've had random thoughts about dying, going bankrupt, and my kids getting ill. Now I could choose to put conscious energy into those thoughts when they appear and start thinking about those thoughts and catastrophizing (What if...? thinking), but I know that would make me feel shit. 

 

Instead, I almost say to myself "Wow, that's a random thought, where the fvck did that come from? It's been a while since I had that thought".....and then remind myself a) it's not true, b) it's not real, and c) I don't need to believe it.

 

And then I switch my focus to something else more positive and empowering - which funnily enough makes me feel happier.

 

Our thoughts are not always to be trusted - especially when we're tired, stressed, and our mood is low.

[chrishlcfc]

6 minutes ago, Izzy said:

I think there's two types of thoughts.

 

1. Random, unconscious thoughts that just 'appear' out of nowhere

2. Things we choose to consciously think about (where we put our focus)

 

Even after 10 years of being free from depression, I still get 'random' thoughts appear - and some are not very nice at all. Only this week I've had random thoughts about dying, going bankrupt, and my kids getting ill. Now I could choose to put conscious energy into those thoughts when they appear and start thinking about those thoughts and catastrophizing (What if...? thinking), but I know that would make me feel shit. 

 

Instead, I almost say to myself "Wow, that's a random thought, where the fvck did that come from? It's been a while since I had that thought".....and then remind myself a) it's not true, b) it's not real, and c) I don't need to believe it.

 

And then I switch my focus to something else more positive and empowering - which funnily enough makes me feel happier.

 

Our thoughts are not always to be trusted - especially when we're tired, stressed, and our mood is low.

Very true especially the last point. That’s what I keep being told. Thoughts are thoughts and they aren’t to be trusted.

 

Thats the barrier I’m still personally trying to get through and remember more often

[Sol thewall Bamba]

Gave a presentation at work yesterday to around 50 people, with a number of senior people 3 or 4 levels of the ladder above myself. I absolutely detest public speaking to the point of completely avoiding it at any opportunity but I had nowhere to hide this time. It actually went well and I actually quite enjoyed it once I settled into what I'd practised. 

[FoxesDeb]

I wasn't sure where to put this, but I need to get it down somewhere. 

 

I have two sons and a daughter, and said daughter is 15. She's just confided in me tonight that she has a girlfriend. 

 

I'm happy that she's happy, but I think I'm already going through a bit of grief that I won't possibly be a grandparent from a daughter, son's children are different and a little bit further removed. 

 

I feel guilty for feeling like this, when I should be happy for her. 

 

[HighPeakFox]

1 hour ago, FoxesDeb said:

I wasn't sure where to put this, but I need to get it down somewhere. 

 

I have two sons and a daughter, and said daughter is 15. She's just confided in me tonight that she has a girlfriend. 

 

I'm happy that she's happy, but I think I'm already going through a bit of grief that I won't possibly be a grandparent from a daughter, son's children are different and a little bit further removed. 

 

I feel guilty for feeling like this, when I should be happy for her. 

 

It ain't necessarily so Debs... a lot can change.

[Jattdogg]

7 hours ago, FoxesDeb said:

I wasn't sure where to put this, but I need to get it down somewhere. 

 

I have two sons and a daughter, and said daughter is 15. She's just confided in me tonight that she has a girlfriend. 

 

I'm happy that she's happy, but I think I'm already going through a bit of grief that I won't possibly be a grandparent from a daughter, son's children are different and a little bit further removed. 

 

I feel guilty for feeling like this, when I should be happy for her. 

 

Think that's a normal reaction. The reality for most straight people (or at least those i know and myself) is likely that our kids will marry or get into a relationship with someone of the opposite sex. We figure that we are the safe straights  lol. No offense intended with that comment.

 

My kids are too young so i can't help understand that feeling but the good thing is you are open and happy for her. I think it's ok to feel a bit gutted but her knowing that mum wasn't horrified and is on her side will help her feel proud to be out etc. Our children need love from us.... well, not ours Deb unless i somehow passed out while you took advantage of me over the wifi. Lol

 

Take your time , dont over think it and let life unfold.  She is young and you never know if it's a phase, her reality or somewhere in between.

 

You love her right?   Thats all that matters at the end of the day.

 

[NasPb]

 

Just woke up, re-watching this video as i do sometimes miss and love this man. Came to his peak in 2015. Leicester legend 

[Countryfox]

On 07/04/2022 at 08:55, Sol thewall Bamba said:

Gave a presentation at work yesterday to around 50 people, with a number of senior people 3 or 4 levels of the ladder above myself. I absolutely detest public speaking to the point of completely avoiding it at any opportunity but I had nowhere to hide this time. It actually went well and I actually quite enjoyed it once I settled into what I'd practised. 

Same here ..  I’ve been asked to be a best man 4 times now and get through that by getting a few down my neck before  ..  the first time I did it I was that hammered I couldn’t read my notes so ripped them up threw them in the air and ad libbed ..  everyone was very impressed by my impression of a drunk doing a speech ! ..  the only time I had to talk in front of a large group (in the hundreds) I was cacking myself .. my brother gave me a beta blocker and that really chilled me out ..  it all went quite smoothly.  Not had to speak to another group since then but have a couple of tablets left just in case.  

[Kopic]

Had someone in today to plaster walls in our living room. It seems to have got moisture in one of the plugs so it's tripped. Which means no boiler (so couldn't shower today), no fridge freezer, no tv, no Internet, no washing machine, I just have 2 working plugs upstairs. ****ing wonderful.

[Parafox]

Earwax! Woke up yesterday with a dullness in my right ear. I use earplugs to sleep due to 30 years of shift work making me a light sleeper susceptible to noise disturbance. I guessed the dullness was due to wax build up so I rinsed my ear under the shower which seemed to help. Given my career, I should have known better but I thought, let's try and dig out the wax with a cotton bud. Just rammed the wax right down my ear canal followed by almost complete hearing loss in my right ear. 

I now have to find a decent product to soften and remove the stuff or wait 6 weeks min for an appointment with the GP practice.

[tom27111]

16 minutes ago, Parafox said:

Earwax! Woke up yesterday with a dullness in my right ear. I use earplugs to sleep due to 30 years of shift work making me a light sleeper susceptible to noise disturbance. I guessed the dullness was due to wax build up so I rinsed my ear under the shower which seemed to help. Given my career, I should have known better but I thought, let's try and dig out the wax with a cotton bud. Just rammed the wax right down my ear canal followed by almost complete hearing loss in my right ear. 

I now have to find a decent product to soften and remove the stuff or wait 6 weeks min for an appointment with the GP practice.

 

I hate that! The GP has always told me never to put anything in your ears, I don't mean cotton buds, but drops like Otex.

 

Worth lying on your side for a while with some warmed up olive oil in your lug hole? 

[Parafox]

1 minute ago, tom27111 said:

 

I hate that! The GP has always told me never to put anything in your ears, I don't mean cotton buds, but drops like Otex.

 

Worth lying on your side for a while with some warmed up olive oil in your lug hole? 

My mum used to say "never put anything in you ear smaller than your elbow. Online advice is to never use cotton buds at any time to clean your ears, they are naturally self cleaning. 

I've tried Earex drops today. Nothing. Apparently it can take a few days but I think I'll go to olive oil and see how it goes...

Pardon?

[tom27111]

26 minutes ago, Parafox said:

My mum used to say "never put anything in you ear smaller than your elbow. Online advice is to never use cotton buds at any time to clean your ears, they are naturally self cleaning. 

I've tried Earex drops today. Nothing. Apparently it can take a few days but I think I'll go to olive oil and see how it goes...

Pardon?

I had it in both ears during the 2010 Word Cup, which in a way was a blessing as it really muffled the vuvuzealas  Lasted ages, they were properly bunged up. 

 

I just persisted with olive oil every night and it eventually cleared up.

 

The stuff the doctor gave me was useless.

 

 

[Guest Electric Yetis]

I used to get it really bad to the point of going to the doctors several times. Now a blast of warm water with a bulb syringe has sorted me out now every time I get it.

 

Nothing more satisfying than seeing the disgusting mess from your ear congregate in the sink. 🤢

 

 

[Jattdogg]

I have had ear issues since a child. Had 4 or so operations on my right ear. I have to go to the ENT specialist yearly for a checkup given my issues. Never fun watching him put the camera down my ear and then sticking  a long metal rod down into my esophagus almost trying to get the wax out Get to watch it on a monitor hooked up to his camera thingy.

 

The wax usually naturally falls out so just be patient and half deaf. At least you can ignore the missus now 

[Crinklyfox]

14 hours ago, Parafox said:

Earwax! Woke up yesterday with a dullness in my right ear. I use earplugs to sleep due to 30 years of shift work making me a light sleeper susceptible to noise disturbance. I guessed the dullness was due to wax build up so I rinsed my ear under the shower which seemed to help. Given my career, I should have known better but I thought, let's try and dig out the wax with a cotton bud. Just rammed the wax right down my ear canal followed by almost complete hearing loss in my right ear. 

I now have to find a decent product to soften and remove the stuff or wait 6 weeks min for an appointment with the GP practice.

You have my sympathy, loss of hearing can be both uncomfortable and isolating.

 

There are a few products on the market that soften ear wax but olive oil may do it.

 

I've suffered a few blocked ears over the years and had them syringed after using drops for about a week.  The only problem I foresee is that in my area GP practices have stopped doing it as an 'non-essential procedure' under Covid restrictions, it may be worth you checking locally.

[rachhere]

Spent ages over the last few weeks moving my stuff from one office to another after a colleague retired (I work in higher education, so lots of books, research materials, etc to move and sort through), only to get an email today saying that everyone is going to be  relocating in the summer . Thrilled! 

Edited 11 April 2022 by rachhere

[Beliall]

On 09/04/2022 at 19:34, Parafox said:

My mum used to say "never put anything in you ear smaller than your elbow. Online advice is to never use cotton buds at any time to clean your ears, they are naturally self cleaning. 

I've tried Earex drops today. Nothing. Apparently it can take a few days but I think I'll go to olive oil and see how it goes...

Pardon?

ring the docs, explain the symptoms and ask for a call back, they should be able to give you otomise over the phone. clears it up quick, i get it all the time, its a constant problem for me, olive oil just makes it worse in my experience, squirting water up there is also a bad idea.