Depression

[filthyfox]

20 minutes ago, sdb said:

Not sure if I've got depression or what, but I've essentially felt nothing for the last 2-3 years. Us winning the FA Cup is about it. Just numbness otherwise. No obvious reason for it. Just don't get much enjoyment from anything any more and I'm far less confident and focused (on everything) than I used to be. Seen a couple of counsellors but nothing has really 'connected', so to speak.

Do you snore?   Could be sleep apnoea.

Otherwise, definitely sounds like a chemical imbalance (anxiety/depression)

 

OR.... You could just be a Foxes fan

[Tommy G]

20 hours ago, urban.spaceman said:

That one was for a warehouse role at Amazon. I got really far into the application but the only shifts they were offering would have meant my other job as a carer would have been impossible to do and I just lost it. I don't even want to do it anyway, but things are getting financially desperate. I loathe the feeling of being forced into something I don't want to do. At this point though I don't really feel capable of anything. 

When you are back on your feet we are recruiting, let me know.

[pedmcl]

Seeing as it's World Mental Health day, think it's fitting to remind everyone that you are not alone, and whatever demons you are fighting, you can defeat them. 

 

This thread is a great place to vent and seek advice (or just a simple chat) from others - please don't be scared to post. 

 

I hope everyone is doing well. 

[ajthefox]

On 02/10/2022 at 21:40, sdb said:

Not sure if I've got depression or what, but I've essentially felt nothing for the last 2-3 years. Us winning the FA Cup is about it. Just numbness otherwise. No obvious reason for it. Just don't get much enjoyment from anything any more and I'm far less confident and focused (on everything) than I used to be. Seen a couple of counsellors but nothing has really 'connected', so to speak.

Since you said connected, I couldn't help but recommend this book. It's fantastic, I cherish my copy of it.

[ajthefox]

On Wednesday, I spent about 45 minutes giving a talk to my company about my experience of struggling with my mental health, about being lonely, about a traumatic relationship, about suicidal thoughts and about how things really changed for me when I started talking about it all.

 

Yesterday, I chaired a panel discussion on the causes of mental-ill health in architecture with the heads of both Liverpool schools of architecture and 3 other practitioners. About 80 people attended. It's hard to really know how much people took out of it but I think it was a fruitful discussion. I very nearly threw in the towel as organising it was a pain in the arse frankly but we got there in the end!

 

I wanted it share this with the community on this thread, the first place I really shared any of my struggle with.

 

Please don't give up on yourself and please talk about it. Get it out. It will help.

[Izzy]

11 minutes ago, ajthefox said:

On Wednesday, I spent about 45 minutes giving a talk to my company about my experience of struggling with my mental health, about being lonely, about a traumatic relationship, about suicidal thoughts and about how things really changed for me when I started talking about it all.

 

Yesterday, I chaired a panel discussion on the causes of mental-ill health in architecture with the heads of both Liverpool schools of architecture and 3 other practitioners. About 80 people attended. It's hard to really know how much people took out of it but I think it was a fruitful discussion. I very nearly threw in the towel as organising it was a pain in the arse frankly but we got there in the end!

 

I wanted it share this with the community on this thread, the first place I really shared any of my struggle with.

 

Please don't give up on yourself and please talk about it. Get it out. It will help.

That's brilliant mate. Good on ya 

[kyleolly]

31 minutes ago, ajthefox said:

On Wednesday, I spent about 45 minutes giving a talk to my company about my experience of struggling with my mental health, about being lonely, about a traumatic relationship, about suicidal thoughts and about how things really changed for me when I started talking about it all.

 

Yesterday, I chaired a panel discussion on the causes of mental-ill health in architecture with the heads of both Liverpool schools of architecture and 3 other practitioners. About 80 people attended. It's hard to really know how much people took out of it but I think it was a fruitful discussion. I very nearly threw in the towel as organising it was a pain in the arse frankly but we got there in the end!

 

I wanted it share this with the community on this thread, the first place I really shared any of my struggle with.

 

Please don't give up on yourself and please talk about it. Get it out. It will help.

Well done keep up the good work I think you will be surprised by how much people take from these sort of things when they have time to reflect on it all

[sdb]

1 hour ago, ajthefox said:

Since you said connected, I couldn't help but recommend this book. It's fantastic, I cherish my copy of it.

Thank you!

[HighPeakFox]

Good evening and best wishes to you all.

[chrishlcfc]

Genuinely scared what do you actually do anymore when literally all that you want to do is die. I’ve tried everything I’ve seeked  help, the lot and it always comes back to the same thing.

 

do you just get on with it and do it and stop rambling on about it. I’m sure it’s the only thing left for me to do to take the pain and suffering away. 

[ozleicester]

28 minutes ago, chrishlcfc said:

Genuinely scared what do you actually do anymore when literally all that you want to do is die. I’ve tried everything I’ve seeked  help, the lot and it always comes back to the same thing.

 

do you just get on with it and do it and stop rambling on about it. I’m sure it’s the only thing left for me to do to take the pain and suffering away. 

Hey mate... would you like to chat?  pop me a message or give me a call.  (ive messaged you)

[FoxesDeb]

4 hours ago, chrishlcfc said:

Genuinely scared what do you actually do anymore when literally all that you want to do is die. I’ve tried everything I’ve seeked  help, the lot and it always comes back to the same thing.

 

do you just get on with it and do it and stop rambling on about it. I’m sure it’s the only thing left for me to do to take the pain and suffering away. 

Give the Samaritans a call on 116 123 anytime. It might help, it might not, but you have absolutely nothing to lose.

 

You can always reach out to one of us too, hopefully you've been in contact with Oz 

 

Keep going though, it won't always feel like this, many of us can vouch for that. 

[Daggers]

6 hours ago, chrishlcfc said:

Genuinely scared what do you actually do anymore when literally all that you want to do is die. I’ve tried everything I’ve seeked  help, the lot and it always comes back to the same thing.

 

do you just get on with it and do it and stop rambling on about it. I’m sure it’s the only thing left for me to do to take the pain and suffering away. 

Chris mate, hold on.

 

Firstly, you need a GP diagnosis and meds. Odds are this won’t cure you, but it will take the edge off.

 

Talk. Talk to anyone who’ll listen. Keep talking. You aren’t alone.

 

Getting well isn’t quick or easy, it’s a long road - but you will get there. It took me years before I got a sense of me back, a sense of balance. 
 

Do easy stuff, tiny little things that bring you joy or that you take pleasure from. Give yourself little rewards when you’ve achieved a tiny thing.
 

Make an appointment at Mind, go chat, they will absolutely help. I’m perfectly happy to make the appointment for you if you don’t feel up to it, feel free to DM me. 

[HighPeakFox]

11 hours ago, chrishlcfc said:

Genuinely scared what do you actually do anymore when literally all that you want to do is die. I’ve tried everything I’ve seeked  help, the lot and it always comes back to the same thing.

 

do you just get on with it and do it and stop rambling on about it. I’m sure it’s the only thing left for me to do to take the pain and suffering away. 

You give it 5 minutes. Then 5 minutes more. You reach out, you call someone, you message one or more of us. Stay alive, it gives you choices. 

[filthyfox]

The cure for depression?

 

Talking yourself into quite possibly the best job role on the planet.

 

Literally I spotted a problem, and boss asked me a load of questions. Then said, "looks like you've talked yourself into more work".

 

I am now the Council's zoo Inspector.

 

...I also suffer from depression on a daily basis.

 

If you don't believe in yourself, then noone else will.

Edited 21 October 2022 by filthyfox

[chrishlcfc]

Thought I’d give an update as I’m definitely in a better state than I was a couple of weeks ago. Just like to thank the people who messaged me.  
 

Started counselling now only had one session but found it really helpful so hopefully it can help me more longer term as it goes on.

 

Still having good days and bad days which is what everybody does, in fact today is the worst I’ve felt in the last few weeks. But at least I’m a bit more focussed on trying to make myself feel better recently. 

[Daggers]

58 minutes ago, chrishlcfc said:

Thought I’d give an update as I’m definitely in a better state than I was a couple of weeks ago. Just like to thank the people who messaged me.  
 

Started counselling now only had one session but found it really helpful so hopefully it can help me more longer term as it goes on.

 

Still having good days and bad days which is what everybody does, in fact today is the worst I’ve felt in the last few weeks. But at least I’m a bit more focussed on trying to make myself feel better recently. 

Great stuff.

[PAULCFC]

On 21/10/2022 at 05:53, filthyfox said:

The cure for depression?

 

Talking yourself into quite possibly the best job role on the planet.

 

Literally I spotted a problem, and boss asked me a load of questions. Then said, "looks like you've talked yourself into more work".

 

I am now the Council's zoo Inspector.

 

...I also suffer from depression on a daily basis.

 

If you don't believe in yourself, then noone else will.

You are living my dream! Would love to have a cottage on the quay in Weymouth(preferbly near the old rooms inn)and going to the zoo every so often!Fair play mate!

[FoxesDeb]

2 hours ago, chrishlcfc said:

Thought I’d give an update as I’m definitely in a better state than I was a couple of weeks ago. Just like to thank the people who messaged me.  
 

Started counselling now only had one session but found it really helpful so hopefully it can help me more longer term as it goes on.

 

Still having good days and bad days which is what everybody does, in fact today is the worst I’ve felt in the last few weeks. But at least I’m a bit more focussed on trying to make myself feel better recently. 

That sounds really positive, hopefully the counselling will go a long way to making the good days far outweigh the bad. It's also great that you recognise everyone has bad days, we need to be kind to ourselves.

 

Keep us updated

[filthyfox]

1 hour ago, PAULCFC said:

You are living my dream! Would love to have a cottage on the quay in Weymouth(preferbly near the old rooms inn)and going to the zoo every so often!Fair play mate!

I'm 5 minutes walk from the trail around Portland Harbour.  Literally surrounded by beauty.

 

Wouldn't want anywhere near the Quay. It gets heaving in Summer!

[chrishlcfc]

16 hours ago, FoxesDeb said:

That sounds really positive, hopefully the counselling will go a long way to making the good days far outweigh the bad. It's also great that you recognise everyone has bad days, we need to be kind to ourselves.

 

Keep us updated

The one thing I’m trying to do more. For years I’ve neglected myself and called myself and just generally been a fool and been really nasty to myself. Hopefully the CBT I’m getting can help me to retrain my thoughts. 

[ajthefox]

2 hours ago, chrishlcfc said:

The one thing I’m trying to do more. For years I’ve neglected myself and called myself and just generally been a fool and been really nasty to myself. Hopefully the CBT I’m getting can help me to retrain my thoughts. 

Hopefully the CBT helps mate, it made a big difference to me. 

 

The stories we tell ourselves about who we are can be very powerful.

 

I think simply being aware and cognissant of the self talk and the things we tell ourselves in any particular moment is a good start.  Creating a distinction between your behaviour and your character is helpful too I.e not telling yourself you're a twat or whatever it may be just because you behaved in a certain way briefly.

 

Easier said than done though!

[filthyfox]

Tonight, I am ditching self help, and getting thoroughly bladdered with workmates.   I always feel better after a good session after months of abstinence.

 

...I know it doesn't always work like that...

[Greg2607]

20 hours ago, filthyfox said:

I'm 5 minutes walk from the trail around Portland Harbour.  Literally surrounded by beauty.

 

Wouldn't want anywhere near the Quay. It gets heaving in Summer!

My Brother in Law lives on Portland, right next door to the Navy Museum place... it's a lovely part of the world it's fair to say!

[Greg2607]

On 20/10/2022 at 00:51, chrishlcfc said:

Genuinely scared what do you actually do anymore when literally all that you want to do is die. I’ve tried everything I’ve seeked  help, the lot and it always comes back to the same thing.

 

do you just get on with it and do it and stop rambling on about it. I’m sure it’s the only thing left for me to do to take the pain and suffering away. 

hey Chris, not sure if you've ever explored the link between diet and depression (i'm sure you've probably tried most things to be fair!!)  but this may help....

 

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2738337/

 

one of my ex girlfriends suffered for Years with depression / bi-polar....   after we had split up, she got pregnant and ended up taking supplements as we was diagnosed as low on B12 and Magnesium....  all her mental health issues disappeared. 

 

it's crazy that nutrition COULD be a reason for some people (I appreciate not everyone, so it might not end up being your solution) 

 

Good Luck on your journey though.