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What grinds my gears...

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The Blur

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8 hours ago, Beliall said:

I wouldn't have said anything if i was there. 

 

Maybe its the chef in me that gives me this differing perspective, i would absolutely have 1 meat dish at my vegetarian wedding. And i agree with you and the decision to have a vegetarian menu at your own wedding, but since we're talking about it, i gave my opinion.

 

I know you two meant well @z-layrex and@Beliall.   No offence were taken as like I said earlier,  there was a debate lying in there somewhere.  It would be genuinely against my girlfriend's belief if we offer meat dishes at the wedding in a similar manner that if a religious couple forgo one of their traditional wedding customs.   I did insist on one condition before agreeing to it that the dishes needed to be of a varied palette to cater for all guests.

 

Carl has already explained well why we feel our menu won't affect our guests.  However there was one adult guest who had a genuine reason for being unable to choose a vegetarian main and it was not an issue to offer a meat substitute. 

 

Ultimately,  I made that original post to rant a bit cause I feel it is bad form to mouth off the cousin to our family or our friends so I thought it was best way to get it off my chest here.    Foxestalk is also full of interesting posts so I thought it would be a worthwhile contribution but yeah to be honest it was more of seeking validation for my thoughts and for me to rant not only about wedding but how some people treat my girlfriend's choice to go vegetarian in general :P

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kingcarr21

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Would meat eaters expect a meat option at a vegan wedding? My mate is a vegan with his wedding next year and there is absolutely no way I would ask for a meat option, my mate is passionate about animals and no way meat would be served at his wedding.

 

Just look at it as a chance to experience something different. Im a meat eater but I would look at a vegetarian menu and think 'meh, why not'. Its only for 1 day.

 

Eating is cheating anyway lol 

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Xen

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10 hours ago, The Blur said:

LGBTQAHSWHATEVER

This isn't directed at you in particular obviously, but this really grinds my gears - the trend to add more and more letters to the acronym to pander to increasingly niche genders/sexualities. It's completely unnecessary - the Q for Queer should encompass pretty much anything that doesn't fall explicitly under LGBT (even if the individual themselves doesn't explicitly identify as 'Queer'). We don't need every single individual to be explicitly called out - we're a community and some aggregation is fine. After all, there's no point having an acronym if it ends up taking longer to say/explain it than it does to walk in the bloody parade in the first place.

 

And whilst I'm on the subject, if there is an A included in the acronym it does not stand for 'Ally'. Allies are more than welcome (encouraged, even!) to support pride and LGBTQ(Asexual/Aromantic) people, but ultimately you're not a part of the collective so there's no need to insert yourself into it like that - you wouldn't add an extra A at the end of BAME and claim that you're part of the community because you're not racist, and the same applies here.

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Finnaldo

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28 minutes ago, Samilktray said:

Pretentious meat eaters are worse than vegans & vegetarians tbh. Eating a steak isn't a personality trait nor a badge of honour. 

 

Seems to be a common trend in society to be more and more needlessly reactionary. It's hard to find a comments section/thread where someone brings up being vegetarian, vegan or just cutting down meat consumption, or some other eco-positive life choice like reusable straws that affects no-one else inevitably to have some fat bastard 'proper bloke' have to butt in with "think I'll have double portions tonight then xD" "I'll ask for two PLASTIC straw next time xD".

 

Obviosuly it's nothing necessarily new, but it seems like its more and more common, probably due to professional contrarian bellends like Ben Shapiro,

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28 minutes ago, Finnaldo said:

 

Seems to be a common trend in society to be more and more needlessly reactionary. It's hard to find a comments section/thread where someone brings up being vegetarian, vegan or just cutting down meat consumption, or some other eco-positive life choice like reusable straws that affects no-one else inevitably to have some fat bastard 'proper bloke' have to butt in with "think I'll have double portions tonight then xD" "I'll ask for two PLASTIC straw next time xD".

 

Obviosuly it's nothing necessarily new, but it seems like its more and more common, probably due to professional contrarian bellends like Ben Shapiro,

Guess it comes down to some folks feeling they somehow have to show off their individualism as if it's something to always and forever be proud of.

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Finnaldo

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56 minutes ago, Xen said:

And whilst I'm on the subject, if there is an A included in the acronym it does not stand for 'Ally'. Allies are more than welcome (encouraged, even!) to support pride and LGBTQ(Asexual/Aromantic) people, but ultimately you're not a part of the collective so there's no need to insert yourself into it like that - you wouldn't add an extra A at the end of BAME and claim that you're part of the community because you're not racist, and the same applies here.

 

Sounds like either an extremely self-congratulatory effort or a desperate attempt to feel included in it. You're not really much of an ally if you're trying to claim a stake in a LGBTQ(a)  community.

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To be honest its not a huge deal to eat vegetarian for a night. We do it occasionally or have small amounts of meat if anything. As i get old i eat less chicken and red meat.

 

If im going to a wedding and know that vegetarian food won't hold me over then i will stop at a mcdonalds or  some fat bastard place and have a juicy greasy burger. Problem solved.  Sure i dont care for strictly vegetarian food but its food i will live. 

 

Now if they don't have an open bar like us punjabis do then shame!!!!!!! Lol i joke!

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On 09/09/2019 at 18:51, z-layrex said:

If you recall my post about my next door neighbour putting his flat on for 10k under mine, we've now lowered ours to 5k under his. Still not a single bloody viewing! Don't understand, it's perfect for commuting to London, top floor, we've decorated it really nicely, wooden floors, new carpets etc. We thought maybe brexit was the problem, but still lots of movement in the area apparently, it's the south east after all!

 

Fell in love with a couple houses and you just have to watch them go while you sit there helpless. Bah!

Market is crap at the moment, we have come off the market as it is so quiet.  Brexit uncertainty!

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13 hours ago, The Blur said:

I'm getting married this November and my girlfriend is a vegetarian.     We went for all vegetarian menu however there are still meat options for kids as we know they can be picky.   Everyone were cool with it and picked their dishes,  some of my mates ripped me a new one but I would have not expected anything less :D.  

 

However,  the girlfriend's cousin decided to respond with "It would not be nice if we had a wedding with meat only dishes hun".    I get that there is a debate lying somewhere in our choice to plump for vegetarian only menu but there is time and place for that.    I just feel that some people are so paranoid and insistent to defend their meat eating that they pick on vegetarians and start debates,   I have seen it many times with my girlfriend.    This is 21st Century,   we have ever expanding LGBTQAHSWHATEVER,  ability to print organs in 3D and Boris as our prime minister etc etc yet people cannot handle others'  nutritional choices.   FFS.  

 

Aside from the terrible misjudgement of marrying a vegetarian (only kidding), the cousin is a massive twat and should be put on a table with annoying people.

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On 10/09/2019 at 22:18, The Blur said:

I'm getting married this November and my girlfriend is a vegetarian.     We went for all vegetarian menu however there are still meat options for kids as we know they can be picky.   Everyone were cool with it and picked their dishes,  some of my mates ripped me a new one but I would have not expected anything less :D.  

 

However,  the girlfriend's cousin decided to respond with "It would not be nice if we had a wedding with meat only dishes hun".    I get that there is a debate lying somewhere in our choice to plump for vegetarian only menu but there is time and place for that.    I just feel that some people are so paranoid and insistent to defend their meat eating that they pick on vegetarians and start debates,   I have seen it many times with my girlfriend.    This is 21st Century,   we have ever expanding LGBTQAHSWHATEVER,  ability to print organs in 3D and Boris as our prime minister etc etc yet people cannot handle others'  nutritional choices.   FFS.  

 

 

 

First of all, congratulations (or commisserations).

 

Know the previous comments covered the whole debate but I got married about 2 years ago and fvckin hell, the about of stupid questions you get:

 

'What if it rains?' (The ceremony and wedding party were in the same fvckin place).

'Can I wear my big hat?' (Dont give a shit)

'The seats on the website dont look comfortable' (for a 20 minute ceremony, the seats were fine by the way) 

 

 

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On 10/09/2019 at 22:18, The Blur said:

I'm getting married this November and my girlfriend is a vegetarian.     We went for all vegetarian menu however there are still meat options for kids as we know they can be picky.   Everyone were cool with it and picked their dishes,  some of my mates ripped me a new one but I would have not expected anything less :D.  

 

However,  the girlfriend's cousin decided to respond with "It would not be nice if we had a wedding with meat only dishes hun".    I get that there is a debate lying somewhere in our choice to plump for vegetarian only menu but there is time and place for that.    I just feel that some people are so paranoid and insistent to defend their meat eating that they pick on vegetarians and start debates,   I have seen it many times with my girlfriend.    This is 21st Century,   we have ever expanding LGBTQAHSWHATEVER,  ability to print organs in 3D and Boris as our prime minister etc etc yet people cannot handle others'  nutritional choices.   FFS.  

 

 

 

It's your wedding and you can be totally brutal about what you want for the day. Your guests will either enjoy the experience of going along with your day that's about the 2 of you or they won't show.

 

People that grumble about other people's weddings really frustrate me. I'm pleased to get an invite and am excited to see what the couple have come up with to represent themselves.

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56 minutes ago, The Bear said:

Where do you stand on weddings abroad, and the bride/groom expecting everyone to fly off abroad just for them? 

My opinion - It's their wedding at the end of the day so they can do what they want.

 

It also filters out the acquaintances from friends. For my core group of mates, I'd fly anywhere anytime for their wedding. For those outside that group, it would depend on a lot of factors, mostly time and money.

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It's your wedding, do what you want. But you're also hosting a party and hosts should be considerate of their guests. Strike a balance. 

 

The more you deviate from what people see as the norm (location, menu, dress code, whatever) don't sulk if you get a bit of resistance. But if someone asks you to dress nicely or eat a quorn lasagne don't bitch. 

 

Complaining to the bride / groom that the free party you're going to doesn't serve chicken is a faux pas and being a total Bridezilla and expecting a thousand people to turn up in diamond lined togas to eat kale and hummus in Timbuktu is a faux pas. 

 

 

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2 hours ago, The Bear said:

Where do you stand on weddings abroad, and the bride/groom expecting everyone to fly off abroad just for them? 

It's the couple's choice at the end of the day. I missed a mate's one because he had it abroad and I just couldn't afford it at the time, especially given my missus would have been coming too.

 

Seemed like it was a really great wedding so I was obviously very happy for them, and I don't think they expected everyone to drop their plans and spend hundreds on going if they couldn't - so they knew the score that not everyone might make it.

 

Anyone who gets affronted by people who can't make their wedding abroad can get in the bin though obviously.

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